I am blessed to have a core group of mom friends. Some from church, many from my local MOPs group, and even many from the internet. I am truly blessed, and I am so thankful for each of the ladies that I know and have come to call my friends.
But have you ever had a friend that was the complete opposite of you? I am dealing with this right now. I have a friend that has one child… probably a little older than Parker. And when we’re together, she feels the need to point out that everything I do is wrong when it comes to parenting. Sure, she was impressed that I nursed Parker for 19 months… but it could have been longer. (Not if I wanted to stay married, it couldn’t!) I didn’t have him at home? Tsk, tsk. Do you know how many germs are in a hospital? Or right now, I need to have an ultrasound at every doctors visit because my pregnancy is so high risk. Do you know how dangerous that is to the baby? Every topic that comes up, I’m on the wrong end of it… at least according to her. How she can make a mom of (almost) 6 feel like mud, I have no idea.
Nor do I know why I let her.
Parenting choices are just that…. choices. Families have to do what is right for them. Even if I wanted to have a home birth (which I don’t!), I can’t because I need to have a staff of doctors and nurses on hand because of my high risk. I want an epidural? So what?! I’ve done the natural childbirth thing, and I enjoy birth much more after I’ve had a 12 inch needle stuck in my back. Why should that matter, really? I’m considering supplementing with formula for baby Gage? So? I’ve raised bottle fed babies, exclusively breastfed babies, and babies that were breastfed and formula fed. Guess what? I’m really not seeing a difference. My formula babies were just as healthy as my breastfed babies.
No matter what the topic, there are two opinions – at least!
That’s why I love the site that my friends, Amanda and Suzanne, recently introduced: We are Both Right. I met these girls through a featured blogger program that we all a part of, and they are simply awesome. In real life, they are very good friends. On some parenting topics, they completely agree. But on many others, they stand on opposite sides of the fence. Their take on it? So what?! Wait, here, read this… it’s the last two sentences on their “About Me” page…
But no matter where anyone stands, our goals are the same. We will do anything it takes to have happy and healthy children — because really, don’t all parents want the very same thing?
Isn’t that a great way to put it?
So, the next time someone comes to you and tells you that your parenting choices are all wrong, just remember: that’s only their opinion. If your goal is to rear your children to be healthy, happy, and loved, that’s all that really matters. Then, check out We are Both Right and get a giggle on lots of parenting topics.
Do you have a “friend” that constantly berates the choices you make as a parent? How do you handle it? Let’s talk!