Avoiding the Inevitable

I am just a few days away from turning 31. I have no idea why age bothers me so much.

Zander still tells everyone that I’m 25 and I’m going to be 25. He’s been saying that since he could talk. This will be the 7th time that I’ve turned 25, if anyone is keeping score.

Do you all struggle with age? Am I ever just going to get over this? I guess that part of me is afraid that I’m getting over, I’ll never have another baby, my life as I officially know it will change. Change is good… I know there will be many new challenges and good things to come my way. I know that in my head. But my heart just aches thinking that it’s all over.

I sound so morbid. Birthdays are supposed to be happy times. What the heck is my deal?

Maybe it has to do with the fact that my Dad always made my birthday so special. After all, the man had me convinced that the 4th of July fireworks were just for me and my birthday. Now that I’m older, my birthday is no big deal. In fact, my own mother forgot my birthday last year. (Sorry, Mom, I love you, but you’ll never live that one down!) No parties, no cake, maybe a present – if we can afford it. But really, it’s just another day on the calendar, and one that makes my age go up. Why should I be excited about that?

I have got to get over this. Maybe I’ll stop being so selfish and just focus all my energy on Zander’s birthday that’s coming up next week!

Oh – and I’m not against all birthdays. Just my own. 🙂 I love celebrating other peoples’ birthdays.

Angie Vinez (2893 Posts)

Angie is a wife and mother to 8. Her life revolves around cooking, cleaning, laundry, and other household duties. She is passionate about her life in Christ and wants to encourage other mothers in their own walk of faith. Angie is active on many social media networks, loves technology, photography, and graphic design, and loves creating blog designs for other mom bloggers.


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    Heather says:

    I just turned 31 this year too. It doesn't bother me, I am just to busy to think about it I guess! I am done having babies and sometimes wish I wasn't! But you are right, life is all about change and how we roll with it. All we can do is trust in Jesus and things will go good! Happy Early Birthday!

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    blueviolet says:

    I'm not a fan of my birthday either but if THAT was my birthday cake, I might reconsider.

    My birthday is just a few days away too!

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    Melissa Beaver says:

    I turn 30 this year and it's really bothering me not to be in my 20's anymore. Haley tells everyone I'm 23, and I will leave it that way till she can add well enough to figure it out. I feel your pain, but wish you a happy birthday anyway. Happy Early Birthday.

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    Fernanda says:

    Think of you birthday as your own personal New Year's day. Time to restart, to do better, to make wishes, and, of course, to be thanskful for all the things you've done so far!!! I do, and it works perfectly for me.

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    Susan G. says:

    I have had a hard time since I turned 30, I will be 34 in about a month. I am scared to see how I feel when I hit 40 LOL

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    cbdkndmom says:

    You're all so young!! I celebrated the 9th anniversary of my 30th birthday earlier this month. Honestly, I don't pay attention to my age so much anymore (except when I'm working with high school and college kids). It really has become another day on the calendar. It could be worse though. Relax. Age is just a number. You are only as old as you feel, which is perhaps why I'm good at teaching 3 year olds swimming skills. LOL

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    Jennifer says:

    Since I can remember, I have wanted to be older, just one year older than I was. Now that I'm older, I wish I could be just one year YOUNGER. *sigh* I had a quarter life crisis at 25, then another 'crisis' at 29. I'm starting to feel the burn again in my 30s too, which is stupid, really. I suppose I'm too affected by this youth oriented society! Why can't I age in peace?! Sheesh!

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    Happy Birthday, Dear Angie. 29 years old was the last birthday to bother me, now for the last 18 years (I'm 47 y/o), I could care less. I am so much kinder and more compassionate having been tempered by the fire of life, love, and loss. I think the indelible mark of losing my beloved brother when I was 23 y/o and he was only 24 y/o made me realize that getting older beats the alternative.
    God Bless, what you're feeling is understandable, but thankfully lessens in time.

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    Erin Tales says:

    I turn 31 this year too! I have to agree with blueviolet, that a cake like that picture would sure make it special. Honestly, I don't care for having birthdays. They were never fun to me. LOL. I prefer celebrating my kiddos birthdays a lot more!

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