So many parents are out there that think they are helping their children when they keep protecting them but this is not actually the case. Being overprotective is something that would lead towards many problems you do not want to be faced with as a parent. If the child is too protected, his development is delayed. That can lead towards emotional, mental, practical and psychological issues in the life of the child.
Being overprotective is always a really bad thing and the big problem is that most of the parents that are like this have no idea that this is the case. That is why we have to highlight these signs that you are overprotective.
The Child Never Failed Till Now
When the child is too protected, he/she will not make mistakes. Failure is never tasted. This is bad. Children will learn a lot from their mistakes, just as much as they learn from their successes. Sometimes they actually learn more, allowing them to overcome normal bumps that they are faced with in their development.
You Are Choosing Your Child’s Friends
Monitoring the company that the child has is definitely an important part of parenting. We cannot deny that. However, when you choose friends, you are getting way too involved. This actually impairs the child’s social skills and life is actually impacted in a negative way.
The Child Always Comes To You When A Problem Appears
It is great to be needed as a parent. This is something that we love and we should never lie about this. The feeling of a child telling you what they feel makes you feel as if you are a great parent. The problem is that any kid has to learn how to process feelings without the parent getting involved. This is true for everything from excitement to sadness. You have to teach the child to find his/her own way to go through emotional landscapes.
The Child Has Zero Chores
If your child lives a life without any worries, he/she will just think about having fun. Childhood is a time when you need to learn about collective, social and personal responsibility, together with everything that this covers. You need to basically start small and then go steady. Never shy away from having the child struggle. This is a principle that is as old as time. You can see it highlighted in spiritual books and the best parents always use chores. However, this does not mean that you have to be strict. Try to do all that you can in order to create a steady growth in chores and responsibilities so that the child can adapt.
The Child Is Afraid Of The World
One of the clear signs that you are overprotective is when the child is afraid of the world as you paint a really horrible picture about it, one focused on negatives. The child ends up thinking that the world is hostile, terrible, dangerous and that home is the only place where safety exists. Well, truth is definitely a sanctuary but that does not mean that the world should be afraid of the world. Fear should never be seen as a good control strategy. It almost always fails. It is a lot better to focus on highlighting the truth: the world can be great or bad, based on many factors.