I have to be the world’s worst mother. Honestly.

I am SO sad. I have been crying my eyes out for hours now. I just blew Santa for my kids.

I am such an idiot. We live in the world’s smallest house, so hiding the gifts that we purchased yesterday is nearly impossible. We ended up putting everything in our big garden bathtub and covering it with blankets. We did the same thing last year, and we were fine. We told the kids to stay out of our bathroom, but neither hubby nor I thought about locking the door. (Can you see where this is going?)

I was sitting on the couch nursing Parker, and hubby was getting stuff ready for work. The kids had been sitting in our room watching a movie, and Zander came out to the living room. He tells me that “I was in your bathroom…” and I jumped up. The blankets were off all of the toys, Jace was holding *THE* Iron Man toy, and Lucy found the Little Mermaid doll we had bought for her.

I burst into tears. I didn’t know what else to do. Christmas is ruined, and it’s all my fault. How do I recover from this?? The boys KNEW not to go into our bathroom, but it’s my fault for not thinking to lock the door.

Hubby and I told the kids that we’re taking all the toys back to the store. We’re going to pack them all up in the car, and take them over to my MIL’s house. We’ve told them that *maybe* if they’re good, Santa might bring them a few toys, and maybe it will be some of the ones we had picked out for them. But, this year, they’re only getting their ornaments from us. Nothing else.

What do you think? Will that help them believe in Santa? I do NOT want to ruin it for them. I feel so awful about this, and if they stop believing in Santa because I messed up, I’ll never forgive myself.

I know that Santa isn’t the *true* meaning of Christmas, but I believed in Santa until I was 12. (I was a blond, just like Ashley!) 😉 My parents always let me believe and always had me convinced that Santa is real. I wanted to at least pass that on to my kids.

So, tell me… have you ever done anything like this, or am I really the worst mom ever? Am I going to recover from this? Are my kids going to recover from this?

SIGH. I am a mess right now. Tell me this will be ok – even if you have to lie to me.

Angie Vinez (2894 Posts)

Angie is a wife and mother to 8. Her life revolves around cooking, cleaning, laundry, and other household duties. She is passionate about her life in Christ and wants to encourage other mothers in their own walk of faith. Angie is active on many social media networks, loves technology, photography, and graphic design, and loves creating blog designs for other mom bloggers.


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    Oh, man. Joey knows there is no Santa. Last year he found some of the toys in the basement. We had put them in the storage area where the kids weren’t “supposed” to go. He said he went back there for something else, but who knows. We played it off, though I forget how, and I think he still kinda believed because he wanted to, but I think he has suspected ever since. Last week, he started asking about Santa again and said all his friends were saying he wasn’t real, that their parents buy the presents. So, we ultimately had “the talk” with him and admitted it. I was the same age if I recall correctly, 4th grade. It kinda sucks, but since we have 3 younger ones that still believe, it’s okay. It’s actually a little easier on us now that he knows.

    No, you are NOT the worst mother. Kids discover Christmas toys all the time. Right now we have all of ours in a closet in the basement, but the kids could go in it at any time. We just “figure” they won’t. The good thing is that the boys and Lucy are still young enough that they can still be fooled, even though they found the toys. I think your cover was pretty good, and I’d just go with that. Say the gifts were going to be from mommy and daddy, but now they can’t be because they saw them. But, you will tell Santa that they really liked those things and would like him to bring them. What else can you do?

    I guess next year just drop the toys at MIL’s or grandma’s and keep them there instead.

    (((HUGS))) sweetie! It will be okay.

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    You are not a terrible mom and Christmas is not ruined. This is the perfect opportunity to really stress the real meaning of Christmas. Let your kids know that YOU bought them gifts because YOU love them. It’s not about Santa and not believing in Santa will NOT ruin their Christmas. You can still have a lot of fun with Christmas and with Santa even if they know the truth. I never believed in Santa and I still loved Christmas. We will be teaching Christian that Santa is not real and will teach him first and foremost the real meaning of Christmas.

    Okay, off my soapbox now. 🙂 Please don’t think you ruined Christmas for your kids. There are a lot worse things in life than your kids not believing in Santa. Just have fun, enjoy yourselves, and have a great Christmas.

    Gina W

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    Cat@3KidsandUs says:

    You’re not terrible at all. We all have slip ups!

    It’s a tad on the easier side for us because we’ve always told our kids that Santa is fictional, just like Spiderman and what not. I never really believed in Santa myself, even though my parents tried to convince me otherwise. (how’s that for backwards?)

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    Jewllori by Lori says:

    Aww Ang! I don’t know what to say, but I do know you aren’t a horrible mother. Slip ups happen no matter how big they seem at the time, it will work out!!! (((HUGE HUGS)))

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    Ang, stop beating yourself up. Everything WILL be okay. You will recover, the kids will be fine. Like Gina said, it’s a chance to discuss the TRUE meaning of the holiday.

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    Courtney Fisk says:

    If it makes you feel any better, we decided to get rid if the guy in the big red suite all together! I want them to only focus on Jesus birth, and with the economy so tight…I’m sorry daddy works too hard to not get the credit for those beautiful things! So mayne it is for the better?! No mtter who they are from, Kids LOVE presents!

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    Heather L. says:

    Aw, it’s ok Angie. They’re still so little, I’m sure they will believe your story. I think it was the perfect cover in that situation. You’re not a bad mom. (((HUGS)))

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    What about doing like a devotional lesson about St. Nicholas? (The real guy, who was a Christian, who lived 1700 years ago, and who we base Santa Clause after). It’s a really nice strory

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    Oh Angie, You are most certainly not the worst mom ever. Don’t beat yourself up over this. I also think you covered well. They are so young and they will still believe because that is the magic of being a child. It will be okay. You are a great mom.

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    Jenn Rogers, MUIB Founder says:

    You, worst mom ever? Now that is just too funny! Girl, I KNOW you were devastated, but I am impressed with your cover up. I don’t believe I could have come up with a better response to the kids! My oldest will be 12 on the 28th, and she just found out (admitted she pretty much knew) the truth last year…because I finally sat down and had the talk with her. For the longest time she just figured her friends didn’t know what they were talking about, because there was no way her Mom could afford all those gifts. This dates back to when I was a single mom. Money was tight, but I always found a way to give her a wonderful Christmas. Last year when we talked she had pretty much figured it out, but was just not ready to admit it. She seems to be fighting loosing her childhood innocence tooth and nail. This is fine by me, as they have plenty of time to be grown ups in the real world.

    Of course we teach our children the true meaning of Christmas. However, there is just something about Santa that enhances the magic of childhood, so we indulge in the fantasy.

    Just wait and see, my sweet friend. It will all work out, all is not lost and this year Christmas will still be as magical as every other year.

    I really am IMPRESSED with your cover up! 🙂


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