Any mom of a tween knows just how difficult life can be. After all, they’re going through puberty, exerting their independence, and
some most days, they are just plain crabby.
For months, we have told Ashley that if she can’t keep her hair clean, we’re going to chop it off. There have been nights when I have sent her back into the shower 3 times to wash her hair correctly. I have shown her how to wash it. I have even washed it myself. She is afraid of getting water in her eyes, so she won’t stick her head under the shower. She’s 12 years old. It’s time to learn that if you actually put your head under the water, it will get clean.
Well, she can’t keep it clean, and my husband had had enough. Because she couldn’t keep it clean, she would pull it back into a ponytail. The other day, I could have sworn that hubby was going to cut her ponytail off with a pair of scissors. Luckily, I was able to resolve the issue by setting up a hair appointment to get her hair cut off.
We went through magazines together, and picked out our top 3 favorites. Because she can’t keep it clean, I told her that we were going to go short. Really short.
We got to Mike’s today, and I handed him the picture we had selected. Then, he got to work. She lost a ton of hair, and it looks fabulous. She absolutely hates it, though. I mean she hates it with a passion. She cried the whole way home, saying that she looked like a boy, and how mean I was, and blah, blah, blah. I reminded her that she was lucky that Daddy didn’t give her a haircut, and that if she had just kept her hair clean, we would have kept it longer. You can’t rationalize with a tween, though, so she’s barely talked to me all afternoon.
After we got home, we played with her hair a bit. I showed her several different styles that she could wear, and how easy her hair would be to take care of now. After she put a headband in her hair, she really liked the way it looked, so she seemed a little happier. Looks like I’m going to have to stock up on headbands for awhile. (I think it also helped that I posted it on Facebook, and she’s been reading all the kind comments people are posting!)
Do you all have issues with your tweens and their hair? Am I wrong to think that my 12 year old should know how to care for her hair? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject!