Last night, I ran to the grocery store. I had dropped the kids off at my Mother-in-Law’s for the night, and hubby and I were going to have an evening to ourselves. (For the most part. We still had Gage, but he’s easy!)
While I was walking through the grocery store, I couldn’t help but notice how short shorts have gotten. I noticed one girl that had an iPhone sticking out of her back pocket. Her iPhone was longer than her shorts were.
I was flabbergasted. What makes wearing shorts that short acceptable?
And that’s not even what got me the most. The girl was walking through the store with her mom and dad. She was probably 14 or 15 tops.
As the mom of a teenager, I think it’s absurd what some parents will allow their children to wear. I’ve seen good Christian girls show up for church events in shorts that are shorter than iPhones. Do parents just not care any more? Do they think it’s not worth the fight?
I understand wanting attention – and wanting to show off what the good Lord gave you. I, too, was once a skinny little thing, with legs up to my neck. I wanted to push the boundaries of the dress code my church, school, and parents had all set. And I did. But, when I got caught, I was grounded for what seemed like eons. (And, yes, I always got caught.)
I am so blessed to say that I rarely have problems with Ashley and her wardrobe. She has been given a few things from some girls that I’ve simply had to ask, “If you were standing in front of Jesus, would you be embarrassed to be wearing that?” Now, every time she puts something on, she asks herself that same question. Rarely do I have to ask her to change her clothes. She’s only 14, but she understands the rules her father and I have in place, and she doesn’t push it. (Yes, I know how lucky I am!)
My husband and I do have a strict dress code, and I’m not ashamed of it. Ashley is not to wear low cut tops without a tank top underneath. Skirts and shorts go to the knee. And if she’s swimming in a pool or at the lake and boys are around, she wears a pair of shorts over her bathing suit.
How can we be so strict? Well, let’s think about this…. My husband was once a teenage boy. He *knows* the kind of thoughts that run through a boy’s mind when they see a half-naked girl. And if our daughter is the one dressed like that, she is the one causing that boy to have those thoughts. Therefore, she is sinning by causing that boy to sin. As a parent, it is my job to keep my daughter on the right path, and setting a dress code is just one way I’m trying to do that.
How do you feel about dress codes? Do you enforce them in your household?