Why I Can’t Go See Spiderman (And I Really, Really Want To)

As the mom of 4 boys, and most likely a 5th little boy on the way, it should come as no surprise that I love Superheroes. The craze started when my boys were 1 and 2. For Halloween that year, we dressed as a Superhero family. Hubby bought an authentic Batman costume from a costume rental place, Ashley was Supergirl, Zander was Superman, Jace was Batman, and I made my own SuperMom costume – complete with tiara and magic wand. 🙂 Here… I have a picture I can share:

Halloween 2005
So funny, right? It’s obvious the obsession runs deep.

Spiderman is my absolute favorite of the superheroes. Our 3rd son Parker got his name from Peter Parker. Yep, I’m a little off kilter, I know, but I really like Superheroes. 🙂

And that’s why I’m so bummed that I can’t go see Spiderman right now.

Why can’t I?

Because of another movie that is playing in the theaters right now called Magic Mike.

What does Magic Mike have to do with Spiderman?

A LOT.

Let’s say my best friend decided to take me to see Spiderman for my birthday. No big deal, right?

Well, what would you think if you saw two women standing in line for popcorn and Twizzlers? What movie would you guess those two women would be there to see? I’m thinking that Spiderman would be the last movie that would cross your mind.

Even if you knew me and you knew how I felt about the movie Magic Mike, you might still question what I was doing at the theater. Then, you might start to doubt that my convictions are a strong as I say they are.

The same would be true if I went to see Spiderman with my husband. What if I got up during the movie and used the restroom? Someone might see me walking into the restroom, not knowing that I was there with my husband, and just assume that I was seeing a movie that I shouldn’t see. Again – there goes everything I’ve said right out the window.

The Bible clearly says, “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” (I Thess. 5:22)

With Magic Mike playing in the theater, I cannot abstain from any appearance of evil if I walk into the theater. It would take one person I know seeing me there and jumping to the conclusion that I was there to see something I shouldn’t.

In 30 seconds, my entire testimony could be ruined, and I wouldn’t even know it. I cannot risk it. I will not go see Spiderman until Magic Mike has left the theater.

So, why am I so against Magic Mike?

For oh so many reasons.

  • It is pornography. Ps 101:3 says, “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes.” There really needs to be no more explanation. I think the Bible clearly says it all. But, I will add this: What if the media put out a movie about female strippers, and all the husbands wanted to go see it? We women would be up in flames! Why on earth is it ok for US to go see a movie about male strippers? 2 words: IT’S NOT.
  • It is of the world. 1 John 2:15 – 17 says, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.”  And what else does the Bible say about being in this world? Romans 12:2 says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Just because the world says something is ok does not make it ok. We are to stand out. To be different. To go against the flow.
  • It is adultery. Matthew 5:28 says, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Now, I understand that verse is written to a man, but ladies, that does not exclude us. If we enter a theater to lust after a man, we are committing adultery.
  • It is sin. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” The things that Magic Mike would cause us to think about are in no way described in that verse. We must take care to put things into our minds that are healthy and pleasing to the Lord. Why? Because of 1 Peter 5:8 – “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:” Satan wants to devour you. He wants to destroy your marriage, your relationship with Christ, and your entire life. Do not allow him to have that power!

I know this post will not gain me any popularity points. And I may lose some friends and readers because of this. But, that’s all right. A true friend would not see this post as judgement, but instead as instruction. (Need verses on instruction? The book of Proverbs is full of them!) And if you want to read another post about the dangers and pitfalls of Magic Mike and 50 Shades of Grey, I highly recommend this post by Melissa Jenna.

By putting up this post, I am not declaring that I am perfect. I will be the first to tell you that I fail my Jesus daily and that I am in a constant state of repentance. And God is faithful to forgive us – no matter what we have done. My life before Christ was anything but “good.” But now that I have found Him, and I know Him as my Savior, I want to do what pleases Him. And I want to encourage other women to please Him as well.

If you have failed Him, it’s ok. He still loves you. Repent, turn from your sin, and let Him have control of your life.

Romans 5:20b says, “But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:”

We will all make mistakes, but grace abounds, and God loves His children.

Edited to add: As I was preparing this post, my husband called me on his way to work to tell me that a local little theater is no longer showing Magic Mike and is showing Spiderman. Looks like a date night may just well be in our future. 🙂

Angie Vinez (2872 Posts)

Angie is a wife and mother to 8. Her life revolves around cooking, cleaning, laundry, and other household duties. She is passionate about her life in Christ and wants to encourage other mothers in their own walk of faith. Angie is active on many social media networks, loves technology, photography, and graphic design, and loves creating blog designs for other mom bloggers.



Comments

  1. 1

    Your strong conviction in your faith is admirable. Kudos to you for speaking your heart.

    I have to admit, when I first saw the movie advertised I had the instant thought of ‘ohhh!’ but not in a bad way. And then I instantly had the other thoughts…such as ‘If this was reversed, and it was a movie about women stripping, I surely would not be so keen on my husband wanting to see it…’ <–just like you noted; and the scriptures were lingering in my mind; and then the thought that the actor is not that much older than my oldest son came to mind… and so on, and so forth. I will be abstaining too, but it did sneak up on me for a second. And unlike you, I messed up and said, "Oh, Magic Mike is on, we should go see that," to my 19-yr. old son's girlfriend who was with us (we were, incidentally, all seeing Spiderman). I knew as soon as I'd said it that it was something I couldn't take back because my son looked at me like, 'say what?!?!' I still haven't rectified that error… but I will. 🙂

    • 2

      Rosey, I so appreciate you sharing your heart and your experience. 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to drop by and leave a comment.

  2. 3
    Vickie Riddle says:

    God bless you and your wonderful family.

  3. 5

    I have no issue with you not wanting to see or support Magic Mike, no issue AT ALL. *smiles* But, it sounds like your reason for not seeing a movie you ARE Ok with, is the fear of man.
    The fear of what people MIGHT think. Why do you care what people MIGHT think? Those who know you well enough, will know your convictions and will presume you are NOT there to see Magic Mike. As for the “world” the people you don’t know at the movies, well truthfully, they don’t care. *cheesy grin*
    Your movie watching is between YOU and GOD, not with someone who MIGHT bump into you at a potty break.
    Please, don’t let the fear of man dictate your convictions. “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe.” Proverbs 29:25
    And for the record, I know lots of people who one, think Spiderman is not an appropriate movie and two, wouldn’t be caught dead stepping foot into a movie theater. *smiles* Just that fact that my family DOES go to a theater to see a movie is offensive. No matter what we do, someone will disagree. That’s why we have to make decisions that are between us and GOD and GOD alone – my conscience and convictions should come from HIM, not from what others deem is right or wrong. Just another thing to think about.
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    • 6

      I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Quite a few years ago, I went to a church where I had to sign a piece of paper stating that I would not step foot into a movie theater because the church did not want us supporting Hollywood in that way. I no longer go to that church, and while I do see their stance on the matter, under my own convictions, I do not agree that all movies are evil. (Courageous, Fireproof, Facing the Giants are just a few example of GOOD wholesome family movies.)

      No, Spiderman probably isn’t the best choice of a movie. And if my my husband and I go to the theater and don’t like what we see, we will have NO problem walking out. However, I am very careful to check out reviews for every movie we even consider seeing on the plugged in website put out by Focus on the Family. They let me know every single detail in any movie, and they have actually stopped me and my husband from seeing movies we thought we wanted to see. As far as my children go, they do not get to watch ANY movie (except Disney cartoon movies) without my husband and I screening it first. If we see Spiderman and it is not acceptable for the kids, they will not get to watch it. No further discussion from them on the matter either.

      I know that you probably don’t care about any of that, but I base my convictions on the Bible. Just because I don’t want someone to think I’m seeing Magic Mike does not mean I have the fear of man. I simply want to present myself in a godly manner. Not wanting to go to a theater where Magic Mike is playing keeps me as far from that particular evil as possible.

      Different people have different convictions. I understand that, and I am totally ok with that. I have to do what is best for myself and my family. And, by the grace of God, I am trying to do that. People will think what they want, no matter how much I try to convince them otherwise. I can only do the best I know how. And that’s exactly what I’ll continue to do.

  4. 7
    Bubbles says:

    I totally get your decision to not see Magic Mike, but just not sure how that translates to not going into the same theater because people may assume you are seeing a “naughty” movie.

    How do you keep people from assuming you’re popping into the gas station to buy lottery tickets when you are just paying for gas or maybe a cold drink? Or maybe picking up a few beers at the grocery store? Or just waiting to rent Magic Mike when it comes out to RedBox? etc? How do you keep people from assuming that you are not seeing other objectionable movies that show throughout the year?

    • 8

      People are going to assume what they are going to assume. I can only live my life every day in a way that WOULDN’T cause them to think those things. We can’t protect ourselves from all sin, and from every evil thing this world has to offer, but we should do our best to guard our hearts every opportunity we can.

      • 9

        Game. Set. Match. Bubbles totally destroyed your argument.

        What does the Bible say happened when they saw Jesus talking to the Samaritan women? Or the Pharisees when they saw Him consorting with the “common folk”? Did Jesus care about “appearances” when the harlot washed His feet with her hair?

        Some may ask about your part in celebrating a well-known Pagan holiday such as Halloween. Why do you endorse it so publicly by dressing up your children and posting it online? What’s so redeeming about a non-Christian character such as Batman? Or does what people say don’t matter in *that* instance?

        it seems like you take random stands when it suits you, but ignore your own mantra and cling to doing what *YOU* believe it’s right when it doesn’t.

        Do you live for God? Or men? Which is it?

        This post was very poorly thought-out, Sister.

        • 10

          While I do not appreciate your belittling tone, I do appreciate you leaving your comment. It lets me know that I must be doing something right.

          If you read the entire post, you would see that I clearly said, “By putting up this post, I am not declaring that I am perfect. I will be the first to tell you that I fail my Jesus daily and that I am in a constant state of repentance.” I am human, I stumble daily. I’m guessing that since you are human too, you have the same problem.

          What you do not know is that since I was saved (4 years ago), my family no longer celebrates Halloween like we used to. I used to go all out – matching costumes, a “theme”, months of preparation. Now? The kids grab whatever dress-up costumes they have on hand, and we spend our Halloween night (or close to) at our church’s Fall Festival. But, again, you wouldn’t know that, you are just quick to assume that since I put up a picture from 7 years ago that things are still the same.

          My Christian life is constantly evolving, and while I still mess up and make mistakes, I am trying to do what is right according to God’s word.

          As far as Jesus and the Samaritan woman? Excellent example. But where was Jesus when He spoke with her? He definitely wasn’t in a whore house. He was at a well, a public place where anyone could see his actions. I have no problem witnessing to a prostitute, but given the opportunity, I would witness to her in public.

          I understand that I can no longer walk into a grocery store that doesn’t sell beer. (Although I used to be able to. Until recently, we lived in a dry county.) But, I avoid the wine and beer section completely. In our local store, they put the cold bottled water right next to the cold wine. I had to stop buying cold water bottles because I didn’t want someone seeing me walking into that section. I don’t just take my stand against movie theaters, I try to abstain from the appearance of evil everywhere I go. This is not a flippant or fleeting thought – I sincerely pray and search the Scriptures before I do anything now. I still make mistakes, but if I start doing something that I realize is wrong, I immediately stop what I am doing and leave.

          I will probably never change your mind on any of this, and you will continue to think that I am just some flighty “holier-than-thou.” But that’s ok. 🙂 God knows my heart, and He knows that HIS desires are what permeate the desires of my heart. I want to stand out for my Jesus – not for what YOU think is wrong or right.

          I’ll take care of my family, and you take care of yours. Deal?

  5. 11
    Allin K. says:

    First off, I don’t have a problem with you not wanting to see the film Magic Mike. I don’t see where you have to look far to justify why you wouldn’t. I would however ask you to study the first verse you used and the context of it in the original Greek. Here are some links to some web sites that offer some different takes on this verse. http://bible.org/article/1-thessalonians-522—-sin-sniffer’s-catch-all-verse http://www.crivoice.org/appearance.html

    I guess I have the same question as the Lady above has, if it is truly about not giving the appearence of evil, would the perceptions of what another thinks about you suddenly rule your life? I hope this is food for thought.

    • 12

      I appreciate you posting your thoughts, but I could not stomach my way through those links. I believe that the KJV Bible is the only translation that should be used. When an article starts off saying, “First, the KJV translation is hardly the best translation,” it cuts like a knife. People can translate the Bible to say anything they want it to say, and I believe that’s what the author of that article has done.

      I will not apologize for MY choice to stay away from the theater when a pornographic movie is playing. Magic Mike is not the first movie that has caused me to stay away from the theaters, either, it’s just the one that’s on everyone’s mind right now.

      I live my life according to the way *I* believe God would want me to. And if that differs from your choice, that’s ok. We all have different convictions, and we all live by different standards. God has given us all free will to decide how we live our lives.

      And as I said in response to the comment above, I hope I live my life in a way that when people see me running into the grocery store or gas station, they will know that I am only there to meet the needs of my family. If they assume something else, that’s their prerogative. I can’t change that, but I know God knows my heart and what is in it.

  6. 13
    Jojotheman says:

    Oh the humanity

  7. 14

    “I hope I live my life in a way that when people see me running into the grocery store or gas station, they will know that I am only there to meet the needs of my family. If they assume something else, that’s their prerogative. I can’t change that, but I know God knows my heart and what is in it.”

    So you are currently living your life in such a way that if people see you going into the movie theaters they will automatically think that you are going to see Magic Mike? Anyone who knows me knows I have no interest in seeing Magic Mike, so if they see me going to see a movie, they wouldn’t immediatly think it was that movie I was going to see. So why would people who know you jump to that conclusion? Is there something in your life that makes them think you would go see that movie?

    • 15

      There is nothing in my life that would cause them to think I would go see that movie. In fact, the very opposite. But I still do NOT see the problem if I want to stay away from the theater because it is showing something I deem absolutely inappropriate.

  8. 16

    I’m glad to hear your theater is showing “Spiderman” and not “Magic Mike” so you will get to see the show you want! I really don’t understand the obsession with that “Magic Mike” movie, and I’m not reading “50 Shades of Grey,” either. Even though I have different reasons for not doing so, I do have to wonder if that many women are so unhappy in their marriages that they have to turn to what is, as you point out, pornography.
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    • 17

      Thank you for stopping by, Karen. I appreciate you posting your thoughts. And, I will admit that I have wondered that same thing.

  9. 18

    I haven’t even heard of this Magic Mike movie. But I respect you for your convictions. It is better to be TOO careful than not enough. But I will add that out of 8-12 movies playing, I wouldn’t just assume someone is there to see the bad one! But err on the side of caution if it seems right to you. 🙂

  10. 20
    Candice says:

    I completely support your convictions. As Christians, we should not be of this world and not allow questionable behavior as well. If these are your convictions, then by all means, follow them. The Holy Spirit is giving them to you for a reason. Perhaps because He knows someone will end up seeing you and judge you. I for one, never thought of it in that way, but now that you mention it, it makes perfect sense.

  11. 21

    Kudos to you!!! Way to shine your light!

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